As a frequent solo traveler myself, I could write a book on the joys of being able to change plans at the drop of a hat or not having to deal with the stress that comes from being around a friend for way too long. By going solo, you often open yourself up to experiences you might not have otherwise considered because, really, the only plans you’re breaking by switching it up are your own.
Solo travel has its place, but… sometimes you get into awkward situations. Here are 15 that you’re likely to deal with on the road and how to cope:
Communication Issues
1. You try to communicate with a pharmacist to get some medicine, and it results in charades. Depending on the illness or the affected body part, this could get really embarrassing.
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2. You can’t get through to your taxi driver.
Evelyn Hannon had this exact experience: “I was in Chennai, India, made my last purchase in a shop and was heading back to the ship I was on. The owner of the shop found a rickshaw driver and told him where the ship was docked. I got in and it wasn’t long before I realized we were lost in the dock area, but I couldn’t explain this to the driver. The sun was going down and being lost in the grungy dock area in Chennai was not a good idea. As we passed a policeman I yelled to him and he asked the rickshaw driver to stop. I explained to the policeman where we needed to go and he translated to the driver. The policeman left, and the driver began to shout at me and from the few words I understood, the driver was angry because he thought I reported him to the police. Now the sun was really down and I’m on the dock, lost and with an angry driver. I cajoled as best I could, apologized as best I could and a half hour later I saw the ship lit up in the distance. Thank goodness!”
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3. You got confused at the train station and bought the wrong ticket or got on the wrong train. You end up in the wrong city, alone.
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4. You managed to order something you can’t or won’t eat.. Do you leave it on the table untouched? Send it back?
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5. You think you’ve met a kind stranger, but discover they had expectations or intentions that make you uncomfortable.
Michael Hodson blogged about a friend, who didn’t know Spanish well, was being helped home to his hostel by a friendly stranger to then find out his helper had something else in mind: “And off walked a very disappointed local guy that thought Mark had agreed to a night of passion.”
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>> Read: 7 Common Travel Disasters: How to Avoid Them and What to Do if One Happens to You
Loneliness On the Road
6. You’re traveling in remote parts of China for weeks and just really need someone to talk to.
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7. You’re seated at the last available table in the house – a table for 8 – with no phone, book or way to entertain yourself in a sea of socialization.
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Solo Situations Specific to Women
8. You get called out for being an “old” and unmarried woman by locals.
Megan Kearney found herself discussing her “fertility with the Tajik ambassador to Kyrgyzstan when he noticed my age while processing my visa.”
Kate McCully wrote about making up a fake boyfriend after pressure to have a boyfriend or husband in Laos: “Creating a simple story of a faraway boyfriend defuses the situation, lets locals see me in a socially acceptable light, and allows us to get back to better conversation topics: our lives, our families, and how much I love Lao food.”
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8. You’re being stalked around town by some guy and can’t lose him to save your life.
Megan Kearney had an encounter with an older French tourist in Uzbekistan and “trying to get away from him and having to duck into shops” to keep him from following her back to the hotel.
In Turkey, she had a similar experience and was rescued by a group of young men.
9. You try to tell a man that the extra chair at the table is taken, but you’re obviously alone.
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Feeling Out of Place
10. You get laughed at or pointed at by locals because of your towering stature, skin color, or unusual hair or eye color.
11. You get laughed at or picked on by locals for no good reason.
Christopher Stobbs shares his story: “I had a group of young kids throw stones at me in a village in Uganda.. In that situation I think I having another traveler would only have made me feel less alone. I don’t think it would have stopped them from throwing stones, I’m sad to say. Wrong place, wrong time of day basically.”
What to do:
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When there could or should be two or more
12. You get asked by the hotel staff about when your partner is arriving.
Durant Imboden recently had this experience: “On a recent solo trip to Italy, the staff on all three of the hotels where I stayed seemed surprised that I was traveling alone (even though I’d booked single rooms). Maybe I look like someone who’s old enough to require a companion?”
13. You’re traveling solo while your partner’s back home and you’ve got mixed feeling about leaving them behind.
Matt Long confesses he feels like he’s “travel cheating” when he takes solo trips.
14. You’re the only solo person on a tour; all the others are couples or good friends. You’re the third wheel by default.
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Solo travel makes for great travel experiences, but some of those experiences are likely to be little on the awkward side. Don’t sweat it, awkward experiences make the funniest travel stories to tell at your next destination.
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